My Pregnancy: Full Term

Well this is it! I’m currently coming up to 38 weeks pregnant, I’m officially off work, and I’m officially full-term. Right when you think the day is never going to come, it seriously sneaks up on you! I honestly have no idea where that fine line was going from barely looking pregnant to looking like I was about to pop, because there was NO GREY AREA there. I either had to convince people I was actually pregnant or just laugh along with them that I was huge. “Popping” was an understatement. My bump felt like it came overnight and then every day after I was waking up to being bigger and bigger (and more and more uncomfortable).

I’m actually really grateful that I didn’t start getting huge until later in my pregnancy because it meant more time I could get around or more specifically just move in general. I also got away with only buying 1 maternity shirt. Don’t even ask me how I managed to swing that because I don’t even know somedays. I was able to re-purpose a lot of older, baggier, shirts as I got larger and dresses, skirts, and leggings were a life saver. I didn’t have to buy expensive maternity pants or winter jackets which was a huge money saver for me. Now that I’m at a whale status, no clothes fit, but I refuse to buy more maternity clothes with only a couple weeks left of my pregnancy.  

I finally understand what women mean when they are complaining about how uncomfortable they are in their last few weeks, because DAMN. Everything hurts, and I mean everything. My back and neck ache with a dull pain, my feet and face are so swollen. Getting up and walking around is actually so difficult. I could sleep for days and on top of that you are all emotional about being so uncomfortable day to day (thanks hormones). On top of that I still have random days of morning sickness and nausea.

I also went from not being able to hold down food and keep on weight to gaining like crazy. At my first doctors appointment I realized I lost 15 lbs from being so sick (I was literally the lowest weight I’ve ever been since high school). Every weigh in after that I was only gaining maybe 1-2 lbs every month. It wasn’t until my third trimester when my nausea slowly started to ease up and my appetite fully return that I started to gain weight again. In one week I jumped 13 lbs (keeping in mind a lot of that is probably water weight and baby weight). Honestly, I’d rather gain baby weight and eat what I’d like rather than have my head in the toilet everyday. So when my nausea finally slowed down, I didn’t hold back…If I was hungry and I wanted it, I’d have it. I was making up for the 8 months of throwing up and not being able to eat anything without my stomach turning. That being said, I deterred away from my healthy eating habits a bit. (When I said I didn’t hold back, I wasn’t kidding).

Everyone talks about “getting their body back” after having a baby. This is just the furthest thing from my mind at this point. I know I’ll be focusing on my newborn and also trying to squeeze in showers and meals for myself whenever I can. I want to focus on getting into a routine first with my child and my husband. When it feels like I have things under control and in a good flow then I can focus more on myself and my well-being. Breastfeeding will forsure help with weight loss as well, but that’s just an added bonus. I just want to focus on being a mom and I feel like the weight loss will come on its own eventually, when I’m ready, at my own pace.

I want to use the baby arriving and breastfeeding to kick-start my healthy eating habits again and get back into a good groove. This baby has a MAJOR sweet tooth cause literally all I crave is sugar. Pancakes with syrup, sugary cereals, peanut butter and jam…(are you seeing a breakfast food trend here?) I’m going to need a huge sugar detox after this. Regardless, eating well, breastfeeding, and doing things like going for a walk every night after dinner are all steps in the right direction and they will all assist in natural weight loss without the vigorous exercise or dieting.

Now its just a waiting game. The hospital bag is packed, the nursery is (pretty much) done except for the decor, and my doctor is currently on a beach somewhere south. We just had our weekly appointment and she checked me out. It looks like this baby hasn’t even started making her way down to the birthing position yet. So it looks like she will be coming right around her due date and not before (and I’m totally fine with that, even with how insanely uncomfortable I am).

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There’s a light at the end of tunnel and I see it coming my way! We are both so excited to meet our little girl and both so excited for this chapter to come to an end. Probably more so me than my husband, but he’s been a saint throughout this whole process. Even if he was annoyed with me he never showed it. This will be my last blog post about my pregnancy until after the babe comes, its almost bittersweet!

Getting Ready for Baby (Naturally)

With the birth fast approaching, and I mean FAST, I thought I’d write a blog about what I’ve been up to in regards to getting ready for our little girl. Focusing on what I’m bringing to the hospital, what I have prepared at home, and what items I plan to use with cloth diapering.

My Hospital Bag

Hey, I’m a first time mom, so I will most likely be OVER prepared on what to bring to the hospital as I have no clue how long we will be there for. Regardless here’s a list of things I have packed

  • Cloth Diapers
    Also regular NB diapers in case she turns out to be too small for cloth diapers, as most cloth diapers are “one size fits all” they usually fit babies that are 8-10 lbs or over. Not to mention regular diapers might be easier to use while at the hospital considering baby’s first BM is usually pretty gross.
  • Water Wipes
    These are 99.9% Water and .01% Fruit Extract, totally chemical-free and the most efficient thing to bring to the hospital until we start cloth diapering at home. Unfortunately you can only really find these in the US so I bought a value pack on Amazon for $14.99.
  • 2-3 NB Onesies & Sleepers
    Including a couple 3M sets considering we don’t know how big she might be ALSO not forgetting a hat, scratch mitts, and socks.
  • Swaddle Blankets & Receiving Blankets 
  • T-Shirt Dress, Black Cotton Underwear, Loose PJ Pants, Comfy Socks
    To give birth in because who enjoys wearing hospital gowns and having cold feet?
    Also Justin will need a few outfits to change into just in case.
  • Postpartum Pads
    These and adult diapers should also be supplied by the hospital but I’m bringing some just in case.
  • Nursing Bra & 1 Nursing Shirt
  • Essential Oils
    Lavender for stress relief & Peppermint for my nausea are my go-to’s.
  • Personal Toiletries
    All the essentials like toothbrush, toothpaste, witch hazel, etc.
    See my previous blog post My Natural (Daily) Beauty Routine to see my favorites I use everyday.
  • Money/Change
    For Vending Machines, Food, Parking, etc.
  • Car Seat
    Cause they don’t let you take baby home without something.
  • Baby Folder
    Meaning ALL the paperwork I’ve been accumulating over the last 9 months from my doctor regarding the baby, hospital forms, information packages, etc. This also gives me a spot to put other important papers the hospital will give me while I’m there.

Diaper Changing

Cloth Diapers/Wipes

I actually found a shop on Etsy that makes bundles of cloth diapers and charcoal bamboo inserts. It was actually pretty cost efficient considering the cost of cloth diapers. I was able to get 12 covers and inserts for $200. I thought this was good to start but I will eventually need to get more. They are one size fits all with different snap locations for different weights and ages.

I also found another shop owner who produces cloth wipes, I purchased 50 for $50 ($1 a wipe, can’t go too wrong with that considering they are washable & reusable)

It seems like a large upfront cost but the benefits out-weigh the price, no chemicals or toxins and if all goes well I won’t need to purchase a box of diapers or wipes AT ALL, which will help us save SO much money down the line. If you are interested in other ways I plan to be natural with baby check out my previous blog post Being Natural with Baby

Baby Wipe Spray

I have made a super easy and clean wipe spray with only 4 ingredients.

  • 8 oz Distilled Water
  • 1/2 tsp Unscented Dr. Bonner’s Castile Soap
  • 1 tbsp Fractionated Coconut Oil (Can also use Sweet Almond Oil)
  • 2-3 Drops of Lavender Essential Oil

Simply Mix all these together in a 8 oz glass amber spray bottle & SHAKE WELL before each use. Fractionated Coconut Oil can be found in the cosmetic section of your local health food store and please do your research in regards to using essential oils with babies! Baby’s skin is sensitive and doesn’t require nearly as much as we would and also use the highest quality oils you can find, I prefer to use doTERRA for recipes like this.

Another thing to consider is efficiency with cloth diapering. There will be times when we are out and about and she will need a change. Instead of lugging around a big 8 oz spray bottle in the diaper bag, opt for a small 2-4 oz mini sprayer.

Diaper Sprayer/Washer (Bidet Sprayer)

This was more of an “efficient luxury” rather then a necessity, but I wanted to equip myself with as many things as possible to make cloth diapering easier for myself. I bought this bidet sprayer off Amazon for $30, it comes with all the attachments and a holder. Essentially its used to spray remaining poop off the diapers and into the toilet before washing or before the diapers are put in the wet bags until washing. Ideally this will minimize stains and making the process easier (and less smelly) in general.

Wet Bags x 2

TWO Vinyl Wet Bags, ONE for my “bed side” change station at home and ONE for the diaper bag. These are for storing the dirty cloth diapers and wipes until washing. They keep in the smell and the moisture. I bought mine from Amazon for less than $14.99.

DIY Laundry Detergent

Most liquid laundry detergents are not compatible with cloth diapering and can actually ruin the diapers (not to mention full of chemicals). The best option is to make your own, luckily the detergent I make is clean and compatible with cloth diapers, it also lasts 6 months so its a HUGE cost saver! Check out my previous blog post Lavender Orange Laundry Detergent for the recipe.

Mesh Laundry Bags

This is also an efficient luxury. Do you know how small baby socks are? God knows they will get lost in my house within a week. So these bags are specifically for really small things like socks, hats, and mitts that need to be washed without getting lost in the sock munching machine known as your dryer.

An Efficient Change Station

I have set up 2 change stations in my house. 1 in the Nursery and 1 right next to my bed for night time changings. For the nursery change station I used a kitchen island cart from IKEA ($69.99) This was luckily something I had before from my Interior Design days. Its perfect for storing diapers, wipes, spray bottles, etc. & it’s on wheels. The other change station I purchased a storage box and filled it with changing necessities including a portable change pad and wet bag so I ideally won’t even need to get out of bed in the middle of the night.

Everyday Essentials

Earth Mama Line (Herbal Pads, Bottom Spray, Nipple Butter)

Earth Mama makes a ton of products for both mama and baby, ranging from things to assist with pregnancy, breast feeding, and postpartum. Certified organic and natural/minimal ingredients, this line is perfect for the expecting mommy who isn’t keen on making their own products or if you just don’t have the time to do so. Out of all the things they sell I purchased the three things I feel like I will use the most day to day.

The herbal pads and bottom spray are both for postpartum relief. (Once again feeling like I need to be over prepared cause I don’t know what to expect and I really want to try to stay away from taking pain killers if I’m hurting. The other product I wanted to try was their nipple butter. Its lanolin-free and doesn’t require you to wash it off between feedings. All of these products are reasonably priced and have amazing reviews.

Carina Organics Baby Wash/Shampoo/Lotion

My husband and I actually use the Carina Organics shampoo line and I love them! My hair feels so light weight after which is amazing cause I have SUCH thick, curly hair. I bought small 8 oz bottles of their shampoo/wash and lotion from their baby line to try on our girl. Certified organic, no harsh smells or fragrances, and amazing reviews. As long as there is no sort of reactions with her skin I will definitely be upgrading to the 1 liter bottles.

Washable Breast Pads & Breast Milk Storage Bags

While the breast milk storage bags are not natural (plastic and disposable) I still felt like they were a definite necessity when it comes to storing breast milk instead of using small containers. With how much breast milk we plan to store away and use, containers just weren’t an option. They are stackable, freeze flat, easier to thaw, and have an area to write the date it was collected and stored. A pack of 100 cost me $19.00 on Amazon. The breast pads however are washable and can be reused over and over.

Baby Wrap/Carrier

I’ve chosen a brand called Huggaloops and I opted for the bamboo carrier in a neutral colour so my husband is okay with wearing baby too (not that he’d really care about strutting around in a hot pink baby wrap anyways). I’m actually really excited about baby wearing because its an ancient practice and women rave all the time about still being able to get stuff done around the house. Can even go as far as wearing baby out instead of pushing a big stroller around. It’s a pricey purchase ($100 including shipping and taxes) but I feel like it will be beyond worth it in the end when it comes to efficiency.

Baby Lounger

We actually purchased multiple loungers, the fisher price rock n’ play for the main level and we have a small bed side bassinet for our room. On top of that we also purchased a custom lounger from a shop on Etsy (this one was similar to the Dock-a-Tot or Boppy Lounger but way cheaper). While the Dock-a-Tot goes for around $300 we purchased ours for $70. Its perfect for co-sleeping, nap time, and travelling. Once again a pricey purchase but I feel as though in the end it will be worth it to have multiple places to put down baby when we need to.

Hormonal Teas/Nursing Teas

Finally I purchased some herbal teas specific to balancing those pesky postpartum hormones and boosting milk production. Everyone is different when it comes to milk production so I am not sure how these teas will effect me directly but it’s worth a shot to see if it helps. While placenta encapsulation is a generally new practice and is said to help immensely with balancing hormones and postpartum depression, I did not plan for it personally, so I’m hoping a herbal tea will be equally effective.

Well there you have it, better to be OVER prepared instead of under prepared. With the birth only weeks away, its literally just a waiting game now. If others mama’s have preferred natural products that they swear by please feel free to comment and share!

Becoming a Mother Changes You

I hear this all the time..and to me its crazy to think how I haven’t even given birth yet and I can already feel these changes. Not only is my physical body changing at rocket speed day to day but I can sense the changes in my emotional self as well.

For one I just don’t have time for others negativity. I’m at this point in my life where I feel as though I am going through something that’s difficult for me. PREGNANCY has been difficult for me in general. Dealing with HG, going on sick leave, etc. There were times where I felt like I couldn’t even take care of myself properly yet alone deal with other peoples problems or crappy attitudes.

I needed to be surrounded by supportive and encouraging people. I had some people in my family tell me I wouldn’t be able to support this baby or that I wasn’t ready. The most logical thing to do in my perspective was to distance myself from them as the LAST thing I needed was my own family emotionally tearing me down when I was already in such a negative state. Didn’t they understand that this is my first child, my first experience? Didn’t they understand that this wasn’t something we planned and I am scared shitless to give birth or be a mom? I chose to surround myself with other supportive family and friends and the remainder of my pregnancy has been so much more positive.

A part of me knows this new found attitude is going to just continue after the baby comes. If you don’t have something nice to say, then keep it yourself, cause I don’t have the time or the emotional energy to care about your negative opinions. I do what I can to better myself everyday and I don’t need everyone’s approval and constant permission. In the end I am going to do whatever I can everyday to make sure my baby is taken care of and get what she needs

Going hand in hand with that you learn you may loose people in the process. Most people are not at the same life stage as you, their priorities are different. Most people don’t understand how much a baby actually changes your life. We were sort of thrown into parenthood only weeks after our honeymoon (something we had to seriously adjust to). Those couple relaxing years we were planning for to focus on things we wanted to do and each other was put right to the back burner.

My husband’s focus shifted to my well-being and being at home with his family (and that’s unlikely to change after the baby comes as well). Obviously some people don’t realize that he doesn’t want to stay out till all hours of the night drinking with his 35 week pregnant wife at home, or soon to be newborn. His priorities have changed drastically and even though I am so thankful to have a partner who goes out of his way to put me and his family first everyday, other friends may not see it as so and may feel bitter or somewhat betrayed. All I can say is someday when they are about to bring a life into the world, its all they are going to care about at the time as well…and they will finally understand.

All and all, in the end the most important thing to you day to day is your child. Are they healthy? Are you prepared? Do you have what you need? Are they happy? Are you taking care of yourself? Cause lets be honest, how can you take care of a baby if you aren’t making yourself a priority too. When all these things are the only things you think about other people’s crappy attitudes or lack of understanding is the last thing you need weighing you down. Truth is, you just don’t need it in your life and its okay to choose to distance yourself from that.

I’m now 35 weeks and 4 days along and I also wanted to share my favorites from our maternity shoot. Done by our amazing photographer Vanessa Marie Dewsbury who did our engagement and wedding photography as well!

Vanessa is also a Reiki Master and all around natural healing enthusiast! She is also a fellow blogger with an amazingly insightful blog called
The Sensitive Soul

The Third Trimester

I’d like to say it just gets easier..some people were telling me they felt the best in their third trimester. Unfortunately you tend to get more and more uncomfortable day by day. I’m now 30 weeks along, celebrating 212 days of pregnancy, celebrating the magnificent life that my body is growing. The only good thing so far coming into my third trimester is that time is literally flying by now. In a short 10 weeks I will be staring into my girl’s eyes in awe of what I created and what I have been through. It really feels like there’s a huge bright light at the end of this long, trying, tunnel.

Our first doctors appointment after finding out the gender we found out she was in breech. It was a little worrisome but she has weeks to turn before we really needed to be concerned. In the end I was trusting that if I was meant to have a C-section it would be the safest option and I was totally open to that. Of course a natural birth is what we want but it really comes down to whatever the safer option is at the time.

I was also feeling SO sick, it felt like my first trimester all over, literally. Exhausted, nausea, back to throwing up multiple times a day…It was discouraging because I was only back to work full-time for a little over a month and I was STILL missing shifts, having to go home early, etc. I couldn’t possibly be this cursed right? RIGHT! Truth is, I still wasn’t finding a routine that was working for me.

It wasn’t until my next monthly doctors appointment that we found out I was insanely anemic. It was bittersweet to know that this was something that could be easily fixed and not something that “I just need to deal with”. So I altered my diet to include even more iron rich foods (even more red meat, even though I don’t eat it often) and I’m currently taking iron supplements. I can honestly say, even after only a few days I felt a lot of my energy return and I got some colour back in what was my pale and sickly looking face. We also found out that our girl is no longer in breech and shes head down, which is amazing news! As long as our little acrobat doesn’t flip back around between now and 36 weeks, then we can hopefully assume a natural birth.

My work and my doctor also suggested that I cut my hours down to “half shifts”. Along with taking iron supplements, THIS was the life saver for me. My job is unfortunately so physically demanding for an 8 hour shift that I was pushing myself way too hard and causing myself to be sick day to day. If I wasn’t throwing up on the bus I was throwing up as soon as I walked in the door to my house. As soon as I started working half shifts it was like a complete 180. I was no longer pushing myself harder than I could handle and I was no longer sick coming home. Lets be honest, when you are sick every morning no matter what..even the smallest bit of relief for the afternoon or evening make it all a little more bearable.

When it’s more bearable you can enjoy and take notice in the little things. Instead of little bumps, punches or kicks, she has full on squirming sessions in there. Sometimes I find myself just staring at my stomach watching her move and wondering what shes doing. She’s big enough that I can feel where she is sitting in my belly and I can even feel things like hiccups. Other then some random days of nasty back pain and my daily dose of morning sickness I have been pretty lucky not to have many other horrible third trimester symptoms. My squeamishness with certain foods and meats has completely disappeared! Except coffee…I was able to drink a cup of coffee a day through most of my second trimester but now I am just completely turned off by it. Matcha has been my substitute (Thanks to my best friend who has been supplying my tea habit). I am still FRUIT OBSESSED. While at the beginning it was a lot of apples and grapes its transitioned to melons and pineapples. I’m not going to lie I treat myself to ice cream and a good poutine from the pub every once in a while as well. I’m also going to be brutally honest and say that now that the weather is getting a lot nicer, I am seriously missing beer. Patio beers, a cold tall boy with dinner at home, you name it.

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Some other news, me and Justin decided to (hopefully) do a vlog of the birth. As long as everything is complication free and we aren’t surprised with an early labor, then we are definitely going to try. It’s just getting closer and closer! I will be doing one more blog post about my pregnancy closer to full term.

A woman’s body is truly fascinating, the entire process and what it goes through from beginning to end. Creating life but also keeping it safe. Even though this entire process hasn’t been the easiest for me I am still so proud of what I have grown. I’m a little freaked out with my upcoming postpartum experience but I feel like it really comes down to me just being nervous about something I have never experienced before and only having an idea of what to expect. But I am so lucky to have such a supportive husband and supportive family to help me through it.

Follow the Signs

At first I was craving a fresh start, a clean slate in a nicer, newer house with my new baby. It wasn’t until things started falling apart that I realized I can be perfectly happy in what we already have. It’s easy to want new things and a clean slate but sometimes life just doesn’t work out that way and it smacks you back to reality.

After weeks of packing up our house and going from house showing to house showing, endless rental applications, credit checks, sleepless nights (and I literally mean 3-4 hours every night) we were really discouraged that we weren’t finding places to suit our needs or that would even match up to what we already have. Why leave a place to move to another that’s smaller, more expensive, and in a horrible area of town? We promised ourselves throughout this process that we wouldn’t settle and we would only move if we could find something better. It was all about relocating to the other end of town because we both work there and we’d be a little closer to family. In the end we found that we were settling, we were settling to the point that we would have moved forward with any place that would taken us, even if it meant moving to the worst area of town.

With two more weeks left before we were supposed to be out (and seemingly homeless), it seemed like the universe attempted to throw a bunch of signs our way. Hubby got a full time job downtown and wouldn’t require to travel to the other end of town. Our landlord came in and fixed the initial issues in our current place, and with me going on maternity leave in only 2 months I wouldn’t need to travel far either from where we are. I started to realize all these factors that were influencing our move initially are no longer factors at all.

Now I have faith that the universe is pushing me in the right direction and I firmly believe this has all happened for a reason, which seemed disappointing at first but I realized that this is how it should be, and we will be just fine. Follow the signs, the universe is trying to tell you something. I was so determined to push through and move no matter what that I was letting that must all/be all goal cloud my judgement and inhibit me from seeing that we can be perfectly content with what we already have (maybe with a little TLC).

Literally to the second, since I had that big realization it felt like a huge weight was lifted from my chest. Weeks of stress and worry were just gone. Now I am in full blown nesting mode, getting the baby’s room ready, patching up and repainting walls, hell I even re-caulked the bathroom! Packing everything up was great because it forced us to go through everything and throw out or donate unused furniture. Now we only have what we use day to day and what we need.

Lesson learned: sometimes you have a plan but things don’t work out. Try to be accepting of the changes and understand that everything is as it should be and that you can be happy with what you have. I always find myself wanting or yearning for more, feeling discontent and restless. I have to teach myself everyday to value and appreciate what I have, the crave for change and my overall restlessness overpowered that. Everything we went through initially felt like a huge burden but it really turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

Follow. The. Signs.

Being Natural with Baby

In the last year I have managed to incorporate natural foods and items into my daily routine. I’ve managed to make all my own cleaning supplies, some of my toiletries, and replaced other beauty products with natural organic products (such as makeup, shampoos, moisturizers, etc.) Of course I have wanted to continue this lifestyle with my growing family and I’ve been thinking of ways I plan incorporate this lifestyle into my baby’s as well. Not only is this going to help us so much financially but I’ll feel good about doing it, in knowing that my child wont be exposed to nasty toxins and chemicals at such a young age.

Cloth Diapers, Wipes, and Inserts

This one is huge! Diapers are so expensive! They are also so full of chemicals. Yes, they are convenient and you don’t have to worry about touching a yucky mess longer than you have to, but in the end you are spending hundreds of dollars a month. I would rather get my hands dirty and spend one upfront cost of $400 than hundreds of dollars every couple months. From the research I have done on cloth diapering children tend to potty train sooner and there is less diaper rash and blow outs. Also with our waste-free adventure we are trying to limit the waste leaving our house and going to the landfill.

Burt’s Bees Baby Line/DIY Baby Toiletries

I love my Burt’s! I use their products regularly and I’m totally comfortable using their baby line. They have all the basics like moisturizers, baby oils, bath wash, dusting powder, diaper rash cream etc. Anything I don’t buy from them I can also make myself!

Making your own Baby Food

When the time is right, hopefully I will be breast feeding as long as I can. However if babe does start to show interest in food then making your own is KEY. No preservatives, no additives, just straight, healthy, natural, food. If it can be organic, even better! Also once again, hugely cost saving. It’s possible to make a months worth of baby food for $30-$50.

Breast Feeding/Organic Formula (if not an option)

Breast really is best! If I can breast feed without any issues (that’s the goal) then I plan to. If I can’t for some reason then I plan to use the best organic formula I can find. This wont be as cost efficient as breast feeding (considering breast milk is obviously free) but in the end I feel like its important to not skimp on baby formula if that’s the route you have to go.

Wooden Teethers & Amber Necklaces

So far I am not liking the idea of pacifiers but I am really going to just have to see if I need to go that route with my girl. When the teething stage comes I would like to attempt to use more natural teethers instead of plastics.

Attempting to use Natural, Organic Cottons/Bamboo

Obviously I know my baby won’t be only wearing or using organic cottons. But some things can be switched out like crib sheets, even an organic crib mattress, swaddle blankets, etc.

Attempting to Eliminate Unnecessary Plastics

This is kinda a tough one because there are so many baby products and toys that are plastic, and why wouldn’t they be? Durable and long lasting, its not like you would give your 1 year old a glass cup and plate. In the end I would like to still try to replace what I can with plastic free products. Some things are “a must” obviously but certain things can be considered like storing pre-made baby food into glass containers instead of plastic, BPA free tableware and bottles, etc.

Essential Oil Diffusers

Baby can benefit from aromatherapy too. We plan to use a oil diffuser with Lavender before bed to help calm baby and help her sleep. Considering she will be sleeping in our room for the first little bit we will also benefit from it too!

Baby Wearing

An ANCIENT practice. What the women in tribes did thousands of years ago. Not only is it efficient but great for mom and baby. Mom can still get things done and baby can be at ease and close. Its a great practice with attachment parenting and you can wear your baby up until the toddler years.

For Mom: Postpartum Health
(assuming a natural birth)

  • Healthy Meals, Hormone Balancing Teas, Lactation Teas
  • Lots of Water*
  • Essential Oils
  • Salt Water Baths/Sitz Baths, Padcicles (Witch Hazel & Aloe)
  • DIY/Natural Toiletries (Nipple Cream, Coconut Oil, etc.)

I don’t like being pregnant.

After waking up and feeling a bit queasy I spent $3 and went to work, only to run off the bus, throw up, walk to work, throw up again in the bathroom, then spend $35 just to cab home. Waste of time, waste of a day, waste of money. On top of that feeling frustrated I can’t just have a normal day, ashamed that I felt like I was disappointing my fellow employees, and annoyed knowing my pay check will be crap. After 6 months the novelty has worn off. I’m going to say it and I am not ashamed whatsoever, I don’t like being pregnant.

Don’t get me wrong, I am SO EXCITED to meet my daughter and be a mom. Creating life really is a beautiful concept, but the process itself for some is just not enjoyable. On top of the typical symptoms like back pain, constipation, cramps, baby brain, hormonal mood swings and just feeling all around shitty, I am also still dealing with constant morning sickness (which decides to come sporadically in the day as well as right after I wake up).

I’m sure for most women the fun wears off around the 8th/9th month, but I’m going to be real and say its been a battle for me to try to enjoy this right from the beginning. When people ask if I am planning on having another I want to give them a swift punch to the gut. “Oh but after you’re holding your baby you wont be thinking about all the pain and heartache!”, they say. My only reply is “I’m sure as hell going to remember throwing up everyday, multiple times a day for 9 months”. The 20-40 hours of labor is one thing, tough it up and push that baby out! But dealing with daily morning sickness for almost a year is literally an emotional battle. Some days I wake up feeling strong and capable “Oh what? 3 more months, whatever I’ve come this far!” and others I lay in bed all day, cry, wondering when I will finally feel like my normal self again.

I am tired of complaining to my family and friends as I am sure they are tired of hearing the same thing everyday. At the same time, I feel like its difficult to take advice from someone who really doesn’t understand how you feel as they did not experience the same symptoms as you, especially to this magnitude. It’s been increasingly easy to isolate myself and push away others. Also with all our family being so spaced around the province I am starting to realize we will be getting less family support than we thought.

Lately it has felt a lot worse because of the added stress of trying to move. We have yet to find a place to live and need to be out by the end of the month. Laying awake at night staring at the ceiling for hours wondering if we are going to have a place to go or be homeless. It has all taken a toll, my morning sickness feels like its going rampant and the lack of sleep is only making me feel worse. Lesson learned; stress just makes you sicker!

Guys, pregnancy sucks. I said it, I’m not ashamed. I’m sure its better for some people but for me, its been half a year of staring down the bottom of my toilet. I know its all worth it in the end and I can’t wait to meet my girl, but damn, this has definitely been the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.